Do you feel like you've lost your 'sense of Self' since becoming a Mother?
Does the hamster-wheel of never ending 'Mum-Stuff' leave you with zero time for anything else?
Or, maybe you find yourself juggling way to much... but never feel like you're actually getting stuff done?
The list of 'should-dos' feels all consuming, doesn't it??
I get it. I used to feel exactly the same...
It doesn't have to be this way though. I'm here to show you how.
"I believe Becoming a Mother Doesn't mean we need to Lose our Self"
A busy Mum of 2 little monkeys myself, I understand what a special time having young children brings, but also empathise with the emotional turbulence, overwhelm and exhaustion that can unfold (if we don't make adequate allowances for our self).
“I’m so sick of feeling this way!”
This was me, for a long time...
Never feeling 100% there as a mum, wife, business owner, friend, daughter... (the list goes on).
The hats I wore had taken over, and I felt like I’d lost the essence of ME.
4 and a bit years into motherhood, I had hit a wall. A big wall! One that I didn't see coming, and it totally blindsided both me and my husband.
I had stretched myself too thin, helping everyone except myself and feeling permanently exhausted...
Looking back, (I didn't realise it at the time) I was becoming so overwhelmed that I began to resent my husband's ability to complete tasks and his seemingly instant ability to just 'switch off!'
'Dad' was a role that didn't typically mean sacrifice, making choices or adjustments. He was able to turn 'Work-Lee or Fun-Guy' on... and away he went! simple.
Of course, I always knew he cared for what was going on at home, (everything he does at work is to support us)... but there was a distinct difference between how he and I went about our day.
The years of silencing my own needs and ignoring my personal desires started to creep out. Cracks appeared as my pent up frustrations grew.
It felt like I had hit a wall, but really I see now, it had been building for years...
Why is it that so many of us need to hit breaking point before we can make room for change?
This is Why Mummy Me Time was Established
Our mission is to normalise the need for selfcare in Motherhood.
To stop others having to reach the same breaking point that I did, before they start to see.
To question the societal norms and internal expectations that hold 'the Selfless Mother' on a golden pedestal...
this is not the role we want to model to our children, and it is certainly not the way to become the best version of ourselves (or benefit to our family).
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“...as soon as Gemma explained these concepts to me, I knew it would be something that could help me.... how motherhood affects your sense of identity.
This course should be compulsory to all new Mums in my opinion.”
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“...I've spent years feeling selfish and not being able to shake the 'mum guilt' when actually I have learnt, if not most women feel the same! Now that I understand it, I'm much happier.”
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"Everything changed, when i was forced to take time out. Once I realised I had to press PAUSE."
To make time for myself.
Myself... ME... the woman who came first (before my marriage and our children).
This simple step, changed our entire family's lives for the better.
The ripple effect
The Ripple Effect that a little self-care can make is quite remarkable! and, you know what, it's actually possible! We can do it... and it's not that difficult to do, once you see how.
Once you understand why it's so important, and how easy it is to achieve, you'll actually find it difficult to imagine how you managed before!
We can "press pause" and take a little time back to reset and re-calibrate.
The benefit of doing so; learning the internal, societal and systemic limitations and pressures that mothers encounter, appreciating your self worth and importance of modelling self kindness to your children.
No more glazed-eye rolling from day to day, no more waiting, no more making excuses.
You can learn to put yourself up on the priority list, just like you do the rest of your family.
Taking time out to pause and reset, you can learn tools to make this possible.
Now that I understand how burnt-out my inner 'super-woman' addict was... and how my ego unknowingly LOVED the idea of 'busy-ness'!
If you find yourself asking the same questions to yourself, let me know!
Reach out, send me a message or sign up to our newsletter.
We are here to let you know, you are not alone and there is a community of Mums here who appreciate how you are feeling.
We can show you that there is another way... teach you the benefit and show you how.
Your time is now Mummy. Let us show you how...
My name is Gemma Mercer, first and foremost, I am Mum to two wonderful children, Imogen & Alfie. They are my world; they truly are the best thing that has ever happened to me... but that's not to say my motherhood journey has been without a few 'rocky times' along the way!
Thank you for taking time to visit this site. Take a look around and do get in touch if you have any questions.
With very best wishes,
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As a Clinical Reflexologist and Maternal Wellness Educator, I take a holistic approach to women's wellbeing. I am passionate about working with women to normalise the sometimes identity-altering changes that we face throughout life.
My goal with Mummy Me Time is to support women, giving them life long strategies to support the physical, mental and emotional changes they encounter. From puberty changes to fertility challenges or throughout motherhood to menopause; every aspect of life can create evolving self-esteem and self-worth. We owe it to ourselves to take time for the dedication and self love we deserve.
My interest in Motherhood Wellness came about when I realised I was far from alone with my early motherhood story.
Appreciating first hand the importance of self-care, Mummy Me Time is here to help busy Mothers understand the impact that not making time for themselves can have on them and their family.
A large proportion of my reflexology clients are women who are trying to conceive or are pregnant.
But then, this is where the treatment of these women usually ends!!
As soon as they become 'Mothers' their ability to maintain ANY form of self-care or nourishment... well...
...falls off a cliff!
(PS. I know the cliff, I know its hard and I know its steep... I fell off the exact same one!)
Even me, a reflexologist, with all my knowledge of holistic living, having lived through the significant toll stress can have on the body and the importance of maintaining selfcare in this crazy busy, modern world.
Time and time again, Mummy wellbeing gets put to the absolute bottom of the pile as soon as family life begins.
It took a good year for me to come far enough out of the baby-haze to begin to see this. Though, then, was lucky enough to fall pregnant again, meaning my ability to see through 'the haze' soon fell right off the edge again! Another two years, and finally I was able to start tackling the haze once more... but if I'm honest, I'm not even sure I knew then what I was looking for.
I just KNEW my balance was all wrong, I was not looking after myself at all and something HAD to give.
This is when I hit breaking point. A wall, that completely blindsided my Relationships!
I was forced to press PAUSE in a big way.
My mission now is to stop others having to get to this point before they take a moment.
Hitting PAUSE made me take a moment, and this is when everything changed.
See how this knowledge can help you too. Join our PRESS PAUSE Community today.
As founder of Mummy Me Time, having the opportunity to work with so many brilliant women, I believe it's important to invest heavily in my knowledge & continued professional development. As well as being a MAR CRM5 Clinical Reflexologist, BSc Psychology and Certified Infant Massage Instructor, I am also fully insured and certified in Postpartum Support and Matrescence Education.
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